You may not want to hear this at a time when stuff happens in your life, but believe me, letting go and moving on will empower you. I know, it may not feel like that at the moment. You may be in pain and focusing on what happened in the past. Maybe something bad or painful happened yesterday, last week, or even last year, and you keep on thinking about it.

You can keep on dwelling on the things that have happened, and hope that you will be able to figure out the why. If you think things through, you could potentially figure out a reason for the negative things that happened in your life.

You've probably been thinking about what happened many, many times; today, yesterday, last week or even longer. Did you have any sleepless nights, not being able to stop those thoughts in your head?

Let me ask you a question: did you end up discovering the reason or reasons? Is it all clear now? Did you have an aha moment?

You may have, and if you did, I do congratulate you, because most people don't. 

If you did find the reasons, how did you find them?

Did you ask for help from other people?

Did you try to look at the situation from a different perspective?

Did you sit down and meditate?

Did you ask your guides or angels?

Did you pick up a book and miraculously find a passage that explained it all?

Some people do, I do sometimes find the reasons, the why, the explanations this way, but not always. Sometimes answers only appear much later in life, often only after we let it go.

The truth is, focusing on the past is not always going to help you. Life can suck pretty badly. No one needs a degree to understand that. Everybody can see this. 

Don't get stuck on the bad things in your life. Figure it out and move on, or if you can't figure it out, then move on regardless. If you don't, you'll get stuck in negativity.

Most likely, if you are completely honest with yourself, you would also understand that even though bad things happened in the past, your life is not a complete disaster.

Sure, you may be frustrated in certain areas of your life. Welcome to the club. Nobody’s immune to this. This is part of the package deal of life. I certainly have had my fair share of that.

But despite your frustration, and possible disappointments with certain areas of your life, there are also areas in your life that are good.

If your life is filled with a mixture of good and bad moments, then your life is just like most other people’s lives. Don't just keep on focusing on the bad things that have happened, but also look at all the good things, things that make you happy, things that make you laugh, or things that make your heart melt.

If you can make a list off all these good things and the things you are grateful for, you'll see that it is not all that bad. You then start directing your focus away from the bad, and redirecting it to all the good things you have in your life.

No, you haven’t completely dropped the ball. You haven’t completely screwed up. You are not done and you are not lost. On the contrary; you are powerful human being. Everyone is powerful in their own way. Isn’t that a cause for celebration? Isn’t that something to feel good about?

Focus on these good things and move on. Focus on the fact that you have some control over the good things in your life. As the old saying goes, “Where your focus goes, energy flows.” In other words, when you focus on good things, good things will start happening in your life.

I know you have probably heard this before, and wonder if this is all really true. Well, I can tell you from own experience that it is true! When things were really bad in my life, I started focusing on all the good things I had, and little by little things started to change for the better.

Now that I understand that that really works, I consciously try to think and be as positive as I possibly can be. Yes, I do screw up sometimes. Yes, I do have negative thoughts at times. Yes, I do make bad mistakes, and yes, I do have sleepless nights, just as everyone else.

The difference now compared to my past is that I have the power to turn things around, by either right away moving on and focusing on the good, or by analyzing what has happened and then move on. 

At times I also know that there is nothing to analyze. Stuff happens, so I tend to move on pretty quickly. And, then, out of nowhere, when I least expect it, I suddenly find clarity around a situation. The thing is that I no longer wait for it. I move on and concentrate on all the good things in my life. In the end, that is what truly makes me happy!

With love,

Maxima Miller

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